WHO I WORK WITH
Two groups of people I know well.
I do not try to be the right therapist for everyone. These are the people I have spent most of my working life around.
OLDER ADULTS
Grief, retirement, and the years after the busy part.
Most of the people I see are in their sixties, seventies, and eighties. Someone died. Or the job ended. Or the body changed and took a whole way of living with it. People around you assume the hard part was the funeral. You know the hard part is the eleven months after it.
What we usually end up working on:
- The house being quiet in a way it has never been quiet before.
- Being the strong one for adult children who are also grieving.
- Retirement taking away the thing that told you who you were.
- Health news you have not fully said out loud to anyone.
- Friends dying at a rate nobody warned you about.
- What you want the rest of it to be for, honestly answered.
I move at a pace that respects a long life. There is no rush to get you to a stage, and no interest in hurrying you past the person you lost. If video calls are new to you, I will walk you through it on the phone first. It is one link and one click.
VETERANS AND FIRST RESPONDERS
You will not have to explain much here.
I did twenty four years in the Air Force and then years at the Philadelphia VA. I know the difference between a deployment and a tour, I know what a bad shift does to a marriage, and I know why you have not brought this up before.
You do not have to prove your service was hard enough. You do not have to translate. And you will not get a therapist who flinches.
- Sleep that never came back right.
- Anger that arrives faster than the thought behind it.
- Survivor guilt, including for people who died long after.
- Losing the team, the mission, and the person you were in uniform.
- Moral injury, and things you did or did not do that still sit with you.
- Being retired or off the job and not knowing what you are for now.
If you are in crisis right now, call or text 988 and press 1. Then call me after.
Whatever you have been through, trust me that it gets better. I’m not going to rush you or force progress, but we will go to the root of it and create a plan that’s in alignment with where you are now.
Not sure you are either one of those?
Call anyway. Fifteen minutes tells both of us a lot, and if I am not the right person I will tell you who is.